If?! You’re so angry you don’t need an alarm clock anymore. That steam pouring out of your ears every morning is more reliable than Old Faithful.

I get it. Your husband cheated. He took your vows and shoved them. Crushed them, like grapes off a vine. Of course, anger makes sense. Until it consumes everything in its path.

Every moment. Every thought. Every breath is driven by fury. You’re never free of it. You may even think you are the anger, having lost the tree for the forest fire.

And maybe at first you felt empowered by your anger. Righteous, even. It’s understandable. Your husband pulled life as you knew it right out from under you. And roaring felt better than crying. Until it pushed you out of the driver’s seat, fired your alarm clock, and turned your perception of everything into that painting, “The Scream.”

Now what? Would you like to experience anything other than wrath? And how would you make that happen? How would you get there from here?

Having been where you are, I have some suggestions.

Take up boxing. I’m kidding, sort of. What I mean is use your anger to fuel a healthy outlet. It’s energizing you anyway. Why not use it? Take up walking or running. Get a speedbag or a trainer. When you feel anger building up, put it to work. Build something you can be proud of while literally blowing off steam. Have you ever seen a couch that shares a home with a puppy whose owner doesn’t walk him? Yikes! Channel your inner puppy consciously.

Next, sit with it. Acknowledge the anger. That’s different than letting it set fire to your entire day. It takes focus to do this step. When you start reacting to something or someone, watch it in action. Notice it. Right there. This step—seeing your anger—will teach you that it’s not you. Now take a breath. Are you ready to look underneath it? You’re sitting still. You are feeling the anger without identifying with it. What is it protecting you from? Pain? Sadness? Likely. While it has become a destructive pattern in your life, the wrath emerged to protect you. To block feelings you thought you couldn’t handle. Your anger is your dark knight. In your silent attention you can thank it for its service and let it go when you’re ready to face your pain more vulnerably. More authentically.

And finally, turn your rage over to God. You are not alone. I say this often because I remember how often I felt this way. Isolated. Hopeless. It’s simply untrue. God is always there. You only need to remember Him. To remember to talk to Him. Set an alarm on your cellphone to remind you to talk to God if you need to. Just do it. And when I say talk, it can be full-on conversations. It can be the simplest of prayers. Help me, God, will do just fine. He will do the heavy lifting for you. You just need to engage with Him. Ask Him to transform your anger into something better, more useful. Ask and you will receive.

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